Thank you everyone that has linked up with us this year.  I’ve enjoyed reading all of your posts and look forward to many more.  Let us know if there is a topic that you would like us to add it to the list for next year. 

Did everyone have a good weekend?  I did.  I spent Sunday and Monday with my mom.  Her brother isn’t doing well so it was nice to be close by in case something happened.  Sunday night I watched the Memorial Day Concert on PBS.  It was my first time watching it and I loved it!  I cannot believe I’ve never watched it.

On Monday we were supposed to see “Aladdin”.  The movie was about to start when my aunt (not my uncle’s wife but his sister) called to tell us that my uncle wasn’t doing well.  We left the movie theatre to go see him and were tell till about 5pm.

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Not too many people know this but my mom had a stroke on March 27th.  I clearly remember that day.  I was in a meeting with my coworker when my sister sent me a text telling me that my mother was taken to the ER.  I was in shock and obviously didn’t really understand what was going on because I sat down and told my coworker what had happened.  No, I didn’t leave right away.  🙁  A few minutes later she told me to leave.

At the hospital we were told it had been a mild stroke.  I wasn’t sure what that meant.  All I knew was that my mother was in the ER and she wasn’t talking.  My mother is a talker.  She isn’t quiet.  Hours later she was finally moved to a room in the hospital.  The nurses came, took care of her, and got her ready to go to sleep.  It was time to go and leaving her there was the most difficult thing I had to do.  To this day I regret leaving her instead of staying with her that night. 

My younger sister and I made plans for the next day.  She would be at the hospital the next morning and I would be there in the afternoon.  The next morning I went out to run and I cried during my run.  I had to stop a few times.  I was also angry.  How could this happen to my mother?  Later at work my principal asked me why I was at school and not at the hospital.  I explained the plans with my sister.  She still told me to leave and I left about 9am.

For the next couple of days I was on a repetitive mode.  Work, hospital, home, and repeat.  I wasn’t able to run much because I was exhausted and had no desire to run.  I was training for the Delaware Half Marathon and my training didn’t go well.

My mother got better and was moved to a rehabilitation hospital.  She was there for about 2 weeks.  From there she was moved to a nursing facility.  The hospitals were about 20 minutes from work and the nursing facility was about 45 minutes away or more (depending on traffic).  I went there as much as I could after school and on the weekends.  It pained me to see her there.  However, I knew it was the best thing for her.  There were doctors, nurses, and therapists helping my better to get better and stronger.

Finally on May 5th she came home.  My sister found someone to stay and take care of here during the day until we could get someone from the state/agency.  That person backed out and we had no one to stay with her.  Luckily, my cousin’s wife agreed to help us out but couldn’t really start full time until Thursday.  I took a few days off to take care of my mother.  It was hard and it made me sad.  She could walk but very slow.  She is still not strong enough to walk by herself and uses a walker inside the apartment or a cane when going outside.  Sometimes she forgets what she was doing or was about to do.  She cannot cook or pick up a cup or plate because she will drop it.  She cannot always use the bathroom and has to wear a diaper.  She is also stubborn.  

My mother lives with my sister and they live 45 minutes-1 hour away.  I’m not trying to complain but it is hard to go there after work, stay there for a few hours, go back home, and then wake up the next day to go to work.  I didn’t want all of the responsibility to fall on my sister (I have other siblings but for various reasons most of the responsibility falls on us). 

My cousin’s wife stays with my mother till 4pm when my sister gets home.  I told my sister that I would go after school on Tuesday and Thursday and then go again on Saturday after my long run, spend the night there, and go back home on Sunday.  My mother cannot be alone for she might trip and fall.  She is diabetic, has high blood pressure, and takes a bunch of medicine.  Since she is diabetic, she needs insulin (which she cannot inject it herself) and needs her glucose level checked three times a day (also cannot do it herself). 

So far this routine is working out for us.  I am liking it.  I do get home very tired.  I am glad school will be over soon.  Even though I will be teaching summer school, it will not be as hectic as it is during the school year.  I won’t be stressed out about lesson plans, grading, or planning for 6 subjects for 20 students.

As for my runs, now more than ever I enjoy them early in the morning.  Things are hectic throughout the day and these runs help me focus and think.  I have so many questions about life and during this time I try to come up with an answer.  My runs are definitely my ME time.  I enjoy the quiet and dark morning (well now it isn’t dark for too long).  I enjoy my long runs at The Arboretum.  My coach has been very supportive and accommodating when I’ve had to skip a run.  When scheduling my runs, she took into consideration the days I come home late.  She checks up on me to see how I am doing.  

I still cannot believe that all of this began 2 months.  It seems longer than 2 months.  It’s been nerve wrecking, painful, and sad.  On a positive note, I am glad my mother is doing much better.  I keep reminding myself that it could have been worse.  She is alive.  She can walk and talk.  With time she will be back to her normal self.

If you are still reading, THANK YOU.  I am writing this post late at night and I’ll probably won’t get up early in the morning to run.  🙂  I tried to write everything important from the past two months but some stuff I cannot remember.  There are probably some mistakes in this post and I might fix them later in the week.  Right now I need to get to sleep.

An update: My sister sent me a text a few minutes ago to tell me that my uncle passed away.  🙁

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20 Comments on Tuesday Topics: Life updates

  1. So sorry for your loss.

    Hope running provides you what you need at this time.

    And if you can’t run, it will always be there when you are ready.

  2. I’m so sorry about your uncle Zenaida 🙁 As I said in my text last night, if you ever need to talk/vent, I’m here for you.

    I think that you have handled all of this extremely well. I can’t imagine how stressful this must be for you. I am glad that running is helping you deal with all of the different emotions.

  3. Oh Zenaida I’m so sorry about your mom AND your uncle. Life takes unexpected turns and it’s so tough. Thank heavens your mom’s stroke was a mild one and I hope she continues to rehab and improve.

  4. I’m so sorry to hear about your uncle 🙁 And I’m glad to hear that your mom is getting better and that you’ve worked out a routine to help her between you, your sister adn cousin. Care taking can be so tough, hang in there!

  5. I am so sorry about your mom AND your uncle, Zenaida. I live so far from my family and I am always scared of a phone call that tells me that something happnened to someone…. I am so glad you’re closer and can see your mom while she recovers.

  6. Oh Zeinada I am so sorry for everything you’re going through & for your loss. That’s a lot to deal with. I can empathize too, as you my parents aren’t doing great — it’s really tiring & I’m not dealing with it every day! I’m so glad school will be “over” soon so you’ll get a little bit of a break.

    I hope your mom continues to improve & regains what she’s lost.

  7. I am so sorry about your mom. You and your sister and cousin have to be exhausted 🙁 It’s great she is back home, and I hope she’s on the road to recovery at her pace. And I hope you are able to adjust all your schedules as need be to care for her. We had a family member have a stroke last year and it was really hard on everyone. I am glad you can run and that’s your time to yourself 🙂

    I am so sorry about your uncle 🙁

  8. So sorry for all that you’ve been dealing with at such a busy time of year. It’s great, though, that your mom is rallying back and that you and your sis (and cousin) are able to do so much with/for her as she continues to recover. Sorry for the loss of your uncle….I”ll be thinking of you & your family <3

  9. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s stroke and your uncle’s passing. You’ve been keeping a lot quiet. It’s understandable to not want to share everything, but when you do we are here to support you.

    • Thank you so much. It means a lot to have support. I kept it quiet because i was still trying to deal with it and learning how to handle it. I think right now I am at a point where things are much better.

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